Ben Wa Balls on Romantic Adventures

Have you ever wondered "What are Ben Wa Balls, and what is all the fuss?"  Well, you probably got introduced to them by the 50 Shades phenomenon or read that silly Wikipedia article but they are much older than that. 

Let me define Ben Wa Balls as an ancient technique developed by Geishas to exercise the muscles of their vaginas, presumably to convince every Samurai Customer that his was the largest Sword she had ever encountered.

They are also called Nen Wa balls or Kegel Balls, pleasure balls, Luna Beads, love balls, Jiggle balls, Inner goddess balls, or Pelvic Weights.  

They have been used for hundreds of years to help women improve the muscle tone in the vagnia and are often recommended by gynecologists.

They can be used alone to exercise by yourself or as we like to call it at Romantic Adventures; 'Pilates for your Pussy.'  Or the very small ones can be used during sex to roll about on the G-Spot while the vagina is being penetrated.  

I would not recommend them for Anal play unless they are a version with a retrieval cord, but we have toys made for anal so why not just start there?

When choosing the perfect set of ben wa balls the details matter and I think toys like food should please the eye as well as the palate.  So pick a pair that is pretty and appeals to you so you will want to play with them.  It should be exciting to think of this secret superpower you are developing and no one who looks at you fully dressed may know you are secretly getting your reps in.

Pleasure Balls come in many materials but here are a few choices

Metal Ben Wa Balls;

Steel is the classic choice and looks kind of industrial and hot-roddish to me.  It is not a bad choice because the weight is definitely there and you can get the metal balls in many different sizes.  These are usually considered pretty advanced unless they are the larger hollow ones.  I personally wouldn't start here, but they look great and men would probably relate to them and think they are cool if you are using them for couples play.

The metal ben way balls also work in a fetish environment.  In Fifty shades of grey, the lady wore hers as Christian spanked her so she had something internal to clench as she tensed it was a way to mix pleasure and Pain, a common theme in fetish sex.

Semi Precious Stone Ben Wa Balls

Now we are in my wheelhouse.  I am a tantric yogi and often meditate with Ben Wa balls in while I do very deep breathing techniques that hyper oxygenate my body and kick off orgasmic convulsions.  The semi-precious stones are a great way to focus that energy and my stone ben wa balls feel absolutely amazing.  They come to body temperature very quickly and feel very silky and natural.  It is the best way I know to give your stones a magical charge.

It is said geishas favored ben wa balls made of white jade and we have some in the store here at Romantic Adventures in Pearl at the moment, but I have some made of Ruby zoisite that is my favorite.   You can find them in Rose quartz, Smokey Quartz or Amythyst and many other precious stone varieties.  This really is a matter of personal preference and in my opinion kind of crosses the line between sex toy and jewelry.

Silicone Pleasure beads

Silicone Pleasure beads are the modern standard and many companies make a version of this.  Silicone is a great material because no one is allergic to it.  It is easy to clean, feels great and won't break the bank.  They also have the advantage of being moldable and many come with a molded-in retrieval system. 

If you are new to the ben wa ball game you may worry about putting them in your vagina and not getting them out.  Its an unfounded fear because the Cervix stops them from going too far and if they are weighted all you have to do is stand up and relax and let gravity handle the rest.  But a retrieval cord can allay a lot of unnecessary fear and hey, we are here to have a good time, right?

Weighted Ben Wa Balls

All ben wa balls should have some heft to them but there is a whole other class of ben wa balls that bring it to another level especially if you are trying to build muscle strength.  They have offset weights inside of the ball so your muscles can never quite figure out how to stabilize them. This causes muscle confusion and exhaustion faster.  (This will give you a light phantom orgasm sensation as your kegel muscles freak out in confusion.) . Lelo makes a great version of this in their Luna Bead sets.  These are tons of fun on a long car ride and if you hit a bump it gets really exciting.

Vibrating Ben Wa Balls

Another version of the old favorite.  I personally don't love this option because vibration can numb the area and the purpose of the ben wa ball experience is to create a more toned and responsive vagina.  The sensations should be created by the weight you are resisting.  It is kind of like pumping iron.  I will say I haven't tried them with partner sex so that may be an experiment you would like to try.  It depends on how you both feel about the vibration sensation.  It is a good opportunity to talk with your partner and see what they like.

We have versions of all these Ben Wa balls for sale in our website so please feel free to click here and check them out.