At Romantic Adventures, we have everything from Plus size strap ons to Hollow strap ons to pegging kits.  

There are a variety of different people who may enjoy using a strap on for a variety of different situations.

A man who struggles with erectile dysfunction may enjoy a hollow strap on because he would still like to hold his lover in his arms and watch the pleasure chase across her face. 

A hollow strapon can also be wonderful if a couple doesn't fit all that well but want to try different positions. 

Many people include a sexy masquerade or role play to warm up and then use a strap on hollow dildo to try the different strap on positions

Are You Making these 3 Critical Strap on Errors?

Strap on Play is becoming very chic and I’m glad to say more and more people are Stepping out of the box to experiment with different aspects of themselves and explore previously unknown edges to enhance their sexuality.

A strap on dildo is a great tool to explore your own relationship with power and the art of pleasuring your partner.  

You can use these toys in a variety of fun ways from double penetration, to anal sex, to pegging your male partner.

Whether you are a female using a strap on sex toy to pleasure another woman or a male partner who enjoys anal play there are some basic mechanical principals that underly the act that you should be familiar with before setting out on your journey of discovery.

Just because you weren’t born with it doesn’t mean you can’t master it.

Fun Strap on play All Starts with a Good Fit…

That means you need a good fitting harness.  So you need to make some decisions up front based on your body type and preferences.   

For instance, if you have had several children and don’t know where you Kegal muscles are located a strapless strap on dildo may not be for you.

If you are a gentleman with a heart condition and a long term committed partner you still want to pleasure; Soft hollow strap-ons are the perfect solution.

Before you head out to your local sex store it may be a good idea to check your hip size with soft tailors measuring tape.  It is different than your pant size and is a critical measurement for choosing the right harness to fit your body correctly.

Some strap on sex positions can only be achieved if the harness fits well and is not likely to slip.  

An ill fitting strap on harness can cause the toy to pop out of its secure holder and even worse it can cause chafing and skin irritation if it is too tight or rubs the wrong area.

If a plus size strap on is needed use that and rip the tag off.  No one will know so don’t get so caught up in the numbers you forget to enjoy the moment.

Fun Strap on play always Involves a Good Fitting Toy…

This is the really subjective part because Women’s bodies are tricky.  They have tons of hormones running on a circuit at all times and what feels good one day may not feel right the next.   

My best advice for picking out the strap on toy you want is to leave your ego at home and when you shop - get a variety of sizes and shapes.

In fact as much as I am a fan of natures elegant design there are some curved g-spot tickling dongs that don’t look anything like a penis but can bring screaming delight to the right receiver.  If you’re looking for g spot stimulation specifically you want to find the best fitting toy you can.

In store, I often have to negotiate with same-sex couples buying their first strap on because the giver wants the biggest phallic shape on the wall and the receiver is far more reserved. Just because it’s lesbian sex doesn’t mean you should commit to a monster cock.  

According to Dr. Freud, we all want to be the big swinging dick in the room or at least be seen with it, but let’s remember it takes two to tango and if you want to stay on the dance floor you have to make your partner look (and feel) good too.

So from regular dildos to vibrating strapless strap ons size does matter. Communication with your partner is key to finding the right size and shape.

Which leads me to my next point…

Fun Strap on Finishes always involves good communication...

Good communication is the foundation of Good Sex.  Of course, an orgasm can be achieved by mechanical means because we have nerve endings that can be stimulated in predictable ways but the secret smile that lights a face only happens when two souls connect.

In my opinion, it doesn’t matter how one achieves orgasm what stays in long term memory is how one achieves intimacy.   

Strap ons and Toys are just an aid; the real deal is the relationship with the person you are with.  Whether you have chosen to just connect for a night or a long term relationship.

Remember to show your partner love and respect while I the moment.

Communication is even more critical while you wear a strap on because you are not getting the tactile feedback that an actual hard penis could give you.   

Feedback is the meat of any two-way conversations so you need to remember to look at your lover's face and watch for signs of discomfort. Watch for tension in their body and grimacing on their face.   

Everybody has a tell - learn to recognize them when you see them.

This can take practice because a lot of those things happen during sex anyway but if you are going to pleasure partners with strap on devices you have to start slow and work to hone your attention to detail.

Having a partner you feel comfortable with is a great start but be sure to check in with them during the process to make sure everything is still feeling great.   

Always use plenty of the appropriate lube and be meticulous about cleaning your toys, and above all…

Have Fun, Play Safe Love RA.